Aw, I love your comment Lee! It's kind of like a beautiful poem! And yes. It reminds me of those years of the worst shyness. That's why I tell my kids, "when you see a very shy and awkward person, or even someone who seems standoffish, try to think that maybe they'd like to connect! Maybe they just don't know how".
I love to see everything you write, and this specially was so uplifting, specially because I can see myself in so many of these things with the social anxiety, makes me feel hopeful that I can improve as well !
Aw, Floressas, thank you so so much for your comment. You're so very kind.
Yes! I think we can all get improve at this thing. Especially if we really want to!
I'm still working on it, almost 10 years later. For me, it was very helpful to start paying better attention to people, and listening to them and watching them more attentively. You realize that everyone else has anxieties as well! And also, we all need to be listened to, and seen by others.
Ani ❤️ I don't how are you doing it, but you do speak straight out of my soul. I can relate so hard it's crazy :)
Speaking language that is not "your own" in front of others whilst carrying the burden of knowing that there is so much more to you than what's visible through your vocal presentation at that moment. I still have many blocks in this area.. Writing is fine and very enjoyable for me, yet speaking can get hard quickly and easily when anxiety and/or fear of judgement/rejection will kick in.
thank you so so much for your comment! You've made me feel very understood.
Yes!! It takes a lot of courage to speak in real time, in front of real people, when we don't know if what we're saying makes complete sense or not (as it happens when learning a new language!)
You know another thing apart from therapy that helped me ENORMOUSLY? It's something called "improv". It's kind of close to comedy, but it's much more than that.
To be honest, it's like practicing to go out into the world and talking to people!
And staying in the moment and listening very well and saying what one is thinking without getting stuck in there, in case I make a mistake or a bad joke or something. Maybe you would like it!
Thank you so much for writing and your work is really beautiful!
hiding a shy and painfully awkward person, except
it feels awkward and painful, then it feels bad.
worrying word for word, except
the words forgotten, was anything said?
did anyone notice?
Aw, I love your comment Lee! It's kind of like a beautiful poem! And yes. It reminds me of those years of the worst shyness. That's why I tell my kids, "when you see a very shy and awkward person, or even someone who seems standoffish, try to think that maybe they'd like to connect! Maybe they just don't know how".
I love to see everything you write, and this specially was so uplifting, specially because I can see myself in so many of these things with the social anxiety, makes me feel hopeful that I can improve as well !
Thank you for sharing this with us <3
Aw, Floressas, thank you so so much for your comment. You're so very kind.
Yes! I think we can all get improve at this thing. Especially if we really want to!
I'm still working on it, almost 10 years later. For me, it was very helpful to start paying better attention to people, and listening to them and watching them more attentively. You realize that everyone else has anxieties as well! And also, we all need to be listened to, and seen by others.
Big big hugs!
Ani ❤️ I don't how are you doing it, but you do speak straight out of my soul. I can relate so hard it's crazy :)
Speaking language that is not "your own" in front of others whilst carrying the burden of knowing that there is so much more to you than what's visible through your vocal presentation at that moment. I still have many blocks in this area.. Writing is fine and very enjoyable for me, yet speaking can get hard quickly and easily when anxiety and/or fear of judgement/rejection will kick in.
Thank you for everything you do and share..
So much love to you, dear fellow earthling 😌
Tereza
Dear Tereza,
thank you so so much for your comment! You've made me feel very understood.
Yes!! It takes a lot of courage to speak in real time, in front of real people, when we don't know if what we're saying makes complete sense or not (as it happens when learning a new language!)
You know another thing apart from therapy that helped me ENORMOUSLY? It's something called "improv". It's kind of close to comedy, but it's much more than that.
To be honest, it's like practicing to go out into the world and talking to people!
And staying in the moment and listening very well and saying what one is thinking without getting stuck in there, in case I make a mistake or a bad joke or something. Maybe you would like it!
Thank you so much for writing and your work is really beautiful!
Big big hugs,
Ani